So, I have this obsession with my hair, I admit it. The first day Regina and I met, I touched and mentioned my hair 5-10 times. Nothing has changed but the length. I still talk about it, worry about it, and touch it more than Uncle Jessie from Full House. I blame it on being a woman, but the truth is, I don't have HAIR CONFIDENCE. When I was growing up, I was a big tomboy. I had my hair in ponytail all the time, and I had bangs that made me look like Nick Carter when the Backstreet Boys debuted. I wasn't raised in a home that pressured me to be more girly. I'm glad for that, however, I missed out on one thing a lot of girls got, hair lessons that led to HAIR CONFIDENCE. You may be wondering what I mean by that. Well, what I've noticed, being a lesbian and all, is that every girl I've been with has a vast knowledge of hair. Hair products, hair accessories, hair know-how, etc. They know how to put it in a ponytail with ease, they can pin it up, straighten it, up-do, down-do, etc. Me, on the other hand, it takes 15 minutes for me to get my hair in a ponytail, and even then I have bumps and loose hairs. I'm no good with hair styling. I can't use bobby pins to save my life. I'm glad someone took those butterfly clips away from me when I was younger because that's the most fashion my hair ever got, but it was still out of style. My problem with HAIR CONFIDENCE is, I get into a comfort zone. Regina, she knows what looks good on her, and she knows how to try new things. She has about 6-7 different hairstyles in her arsenal. Me, I had 2. The ponytail and the down. Now, I have one, since I got my hair cut yesterday. Here's the part I really wanted to share with you, "How to get Hair Confidence." Yesterday Regina and I got haircuts. Our friend Lorraine had been talking up this hair dresser for over a year, but we still hadn't been able to get with her. (That's how you know they're good, when they are in so high demand you can't get to them.) Finally, Regina and I met her yesterday. Stacy is her name. She works on and off for Key Lime Pie in the VAHI. Here's my tip for those of you who are like me and lack HAIR CONFIDENCE, find a hair dresser who knows what the hell they are doing. Stacy was beyond good. She looked at me and knew exactly what needed to be done. So I've compiled a list of 5 tips to help you pick the right hairdresser and give you HAIR CONFIDENCE:

  • They know by looking ONLY what your hair needs
  • They talk to you about what YOU want
  • They start slow, don't assume they know what they're doing because they are fancy. A hairdresser should start off with the basic straight cuts, not fancy cuts. Fancy is later.
  • They look at your face while cutting. If they never look at your face when cutting, get out of the chair.
  • They know things about your hair that you don't. Anyone can tell you that your hair is thick or thin. If you hairdresser knows hair they will tell you something about yours that you didn't know, (of course it should make sense).